Day 061

Dear dreamer,  

Self-reliance...the lies

I remember reading a book that criticised the usual success stories we are used to. The I's that are seen as symbol of greatness. If there is anything we humans are good at, it is leaving the details of the story out and telling vague ones for whatever reason we deem fit. All of this were things I would understand later on. Every now and then, I bump into one challenge or the other, it's usually difficult for me to reach out to others even though I know they might have the answer.

The self-reliance they try to instil in children feels so laughable now. I think it's very ironical that we tell them 'You can do anything' or 'You can do anything by yourself', the lies of self-reliance. One day, they will wake up and realise they can not do much or even anything at all by themselves. The painful thing is that they would not realise early enough that the very self-reliance that was sold to them as the antidote is the poison and a lot of them will struggle with this before realising that they have to unlearn this lies.

People have always existed as a community because that is how we are structured to be. We are supposed to relate with every other person as such. We all have a role to fill and that's what you are supposed to do, not try to do everything all by yourself. You will be able to some well while you will do others poorly. The earlier you realise that all those self-reliance tales will only bring you this far, the better for you. Maybe you have never realised, the good students of self-reliance struggle later than the bad students of self-reliance. 

Somehow, you have to find your way into the flow. Don't forget, you only get this chance to live your dreams. 

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